Joe Duncan
2 min readJul 4, 2023

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Jordan, thanks for reading man and yes, I tend to agree with you. I hedged my bets with this line:

"Considering how well we evolved to sum up situations in a split second efficiently, it’s safe to say that it’s possible, even probable, if by “love” we mean romantic love, a deep, inexplicably strong attraction for someone."

It's a crying shame that in English we have only one word for love. We Greek speakers have eight words: ἀγάπαω, ἔρωω, φιλίαω, στοργή, φιλαυτία, ξενία.

This gives Greek speakers a much wider palette to describe the feelings of love that crop up throughout life because, let's face it, the love you have for your mom isn't anything like the love you feel for your spouse, which is also different from the love you feel from concepts, like your life's pursuit.

Αγάπαω is probably the most commonly used, love for friends, family, brotherly, non-sexual love. The love of the gods would also fall under this category, supposing you believe in him/her/them.

Έρωω is romantic love, the burning passion described in this article.

Φιλιά is the love you have in a friendship.

Στοργή is the tender, affectionate love parents have for their children, though αγάπαω is what's most commonly used and this is almost never used in the entire lengthy history of the Greek language.

Φιλαυτία is the love of the self, which has been described by some as vanity, narcissism, and self-absorbed egotism, but by others as healthy self-confidence and self-respect.

Ζενία is more like hospitality and friendship, it's more tradition than genuine internal feeling. Civility, perhaps?

I originally posted something on this over on Substack and included this description of the various types of love, but didn't want Medium readers to get bogged down with lengthy diatribes about the Greek language (unless they mentioned it).

Hope you're well, man! Thanks again for reading!

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